There was once a student in individual training. I won’t write his name, for obvious reasons.
He came to me for training after a consultation. He said that he liked everything and would like to continue his studies. I accepted him for private training.
The goal was to help start forming a group.
I do everything as always: we clarify values, identify beliefs, set goals, and find the most direct path to the goal.
But, at the very first assessment, my student began expressing his opinion, and even insisting on it.
The message was, “I know what to do, and you, as a coach, just guide me.”
Well, first of all, the student had no experience, so he had absolutely no understanding or knowledge of what he was supposed to do, when, and, most importantly, how. Therefore, coaching was out of the question. In this case, a training model was more suitable. And understanding this, I structured my program around it. Secondly, the person wanted to implement his plans in a very short time. Figuratively speaking, this month we play one concert with a band in our city, and next month we play another concert in the following month.
Yeah, I thought, the guy’s got his head in the clouds.
Not only does putting together a decent band (one that meets all the requirements) require at least three months in provincial cities (I don’t know about cities with a population of over a million), but to play even some seedy dive in your hometown, you need popularity (which is calculated according to a certain formula), not to mention another city or region. All this could waste six months, given that the band writes hits and plays great music. And if that’s not the case, you could be stuck for a long time.
But my student persisted, citing examples of local bands, claiming that they had become “rock stars.”
Rock stars no one had ever seen, much less heard of)))
If I’d told him what it meant to be a real rock star, he’d have changed his mind.
I never wanted to become (and, thank God, never did) a rock star or even perform on stage. I loved and love listening to, composing, and improvising music, helping others, learning old and new things about music, but becoming a rock musician—never. Moreover, since I subsequently learned about the performers and the integral part of their fate, I limited myself to promoting others.
…My smile turned into a smirk. Of course, I was naive about playing in a band at one time, but not that naive…
For some reason, he acted differently during the consultation.
It seems that if it’s free, then it’s better to keep a low profile, but if you paid for the training, then now you can rule the roost. No, dear friends, we’ll play by my rules. I’m interested in you achieving your goals and telling others about them, so I’ll be calling the shots.
So, I said goodbye to him and told him to hope only for a miracle.
A piece of advice I use myself:
Find someone who will mentor you in your area.
If they (the expert) aren’t particularly well-known, then ask for a consultation and try their methods on yourself.
If he’s really cool (i.e. you can’t get in touch with such a specialist through a free consultation), then slowly approach this person through books, courses, programs, and learn, learn, and learn from him. Then you’ll become a YAK when you learn.
I wish you to find someone who has already gone through what you are just beginning and become his student.
